Here at GWS, we love any excuse to dress up — and we’re not the only ones! Dressy weddings are on the rise, with more couples opting for dress codes that call for major glam. And while we’ve all heard of the classic black tie dress code, there’s a new trend taking center stage: black tie optional wedding attire.
Despite being an increasingly popular dress code, black tie optional probably still leaves you with more questions than answers. Is it as dressy as black tie? How optional is too optional? Is an actual black tie mandatory?
So, to help you sort through the vagueness, we’ve created a complete guide to black tie optional wedding attire. We’re breaking down the must-haves and must-have-nots for both men and women — from the colors that are off-limits to the accessories that will complete the look.
Plus, we’ve also included a few ‘fits to help you look stylish AND appropriate on the big day. Let’s get into it!
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What does black tie optional mean?
While a black tie optional wedding may have you stressing about what to wear, it’s actually much less complicated than it sounds!
“Black tie optional” is a dress code that allows you to have a bit more freedom with your formalwear. This wedding attire is more elevated and elegant than a semi-formal dress code, but without all the strict “do’s and don’ts” of a black tie affair.
For women, this means you have the choice between a classic floor-length gown or a luxe cocktail dress. For men, you can either opt for a black tie tuxedo, or go more classic with a dark suit and tie. Either way, a black tie optional wedding leaves room for you to get creative and showcase your personal style!
GWS Dress Code Pro Tip: A black tie optional dress code is left ambiguous for a reason — while the couple definitely wants you to dress up and show off your sophisticated side, they don’t want everyone to wear the same dark, dressy attire. So don’t be afraid to have a little fun with your ‘fit!
Want to show off your sartorial style with a fun and elegant gown? Get all the inspo you need with this list of the best cocktail dresses in every style!
What is black tie optional vs black tie?
Black tie is a traditional dress code that requires men to wear a tuxedo with a black tie and women to wear a floor-length evening gown. While this attire is still appropriate (and even encouraged!) for a black tie optional wedding, it’s not the only option.
For black tie optional weddings, the couple and the wedding party will likely be wearing black tie attire, so you’re invited to do the same. But, the “optional” element saves attendees from having to buy a high-end tux or luxurious gown for the big day.
It also gives you some flexibility to show off your personality and choose an outfit that reflects your style, while still looking dressy and elegant!
The same also goes for “black tie preferred” weddings, which lean more on the formal side of the spectrum, without being too exclusive. If you’re still unsure, just remember: there’s no such thing as overdressing for a black tie optional wedding!
What colors are best to wear for a black tie optional wedding?
The colors that you wear for black tie optional wedding attire will mainly depend on the season, venue, and time of the celebration. Unlike a traditional black tie dress code, no colors are off limits (except white, of course), so choose something that reflects the wedding and makes you feel your best!
For black tie optional weddings that take place in colder months or in the evening, darker colors are typically the way to go. Elegant hues such as navy, burgundy, or classic black will always make a good impression. And if you want to have a little more fun, jewel tones (like rich emerald green or sapphire blue) and metallics (like silver or rose gold) are stylish AND dress code-approved!
If the black tie optional wedding is scheduled for warmer months or during the day, feel free to mix in some lighter and brighter colors, too. Think: pastel pink, sky blue, moss green, or even viva magenta! But remember: you don’t want to take any attention away from the love birds, so err on the side of caution when it comes to neon colors and flashy prints.
GWS Dress Code Pro Tip: If you’re afraid a super vibrant look will feel too informal, you can always stick to a darker color palette and add a pop of color with your accessories!
What are the essentials for black tie optional for men?
Alright fellas, now’s your chance to show off your dapper side! When it comes to black tie optional wedding attire for men, the options range from an elegant tux to a more relaxed two-piece suit.
While one isn’t necessarily better than the other, it’s always best to choose attire that’s well-tailored, high-quality, and ultra sophisticated to mirror the dress code.
A classic white dress shirt is also an essential for black tie optional wedding attire for men. It goes with any type of formalwear, whether you’re rocking a traditional all-black look or a stylish velvet jacket + black pants combo.
And the same goes for a sleek pair of black dress shoes. We recommend choosing suave leather oxfords that are polished to perfection — they’re a classic for a reason!
The final essential? A stylish tie. While black tie optional weddings don’t necessarily call for a black tie, this classic accessory is still a dapper choice for a dressy look. But, if you want to make a statement and have some fun with your ‘fit, you can also opt for a chic pattern or something with a pop of color!
What are the essentials for black tie optional for women?
Typically, black tie optional wedding attire for women calls for either tea length or floor-sweeping evening gowns. From there, the options are endless! Choose a floaty chiffon gown that makes you feel like royalty, or go the sultry route with a silky dress that hugs your curves.
You also have the freedom to show off your style with a romantic flower-adorned pattern, a luxurious fabric (like satin or tulle), or a fun + flirty silhouette!
If you’re worried about drowning in fabric, opt for evening gowns that feature a pop of skin, like an open back, a strapless neckline, or a high leg slit (also a bonus for the dance floor!).
Aside from your gown, the main essentials for black tie optional wedding attire for women are all things glam. It’s called dressing to the nines for a reason, and a statement pair of earrings or a glittering necklace is the ultimate way to elevate your ‘fit! The same goes for a killer beauty look — so don’t shy away from a bold lip or a sleek updo.
A glamorous pair of shoes is also a must, which brings us to our next FAQ….
What shoes are best to wear to a black tie optional wedding?
When it comes to black tie optional wedding attire, your look isn’t complete without a stunning pair of dressy shoes. And as long as they match the formality of your attire and are comfortable enough to wear all night, the style is up to you!
For the guys: Like we mentioned above, a pair of classic black dress shoes is a fool-proof choice for black tie optional weddings. Look for a sleek and polished pair of leather shoes that will add sophistication to your outfit. Oxfords, derby shoes, or dress loafers are all great options!
For the ladies: If you want to keep things chic and timeless for your black tie optional wedding attire, you can’t go wrong with a pair of white or black pumps. They’re classic and versatile, and you’ll definitely wear them again and again after the big day!
For a touch of glamour, metallic heels and embellished shoes are also a no brainer. Add some sparkle to your ‘fit with a pair of rhinestone stilettos, shimmering mules, or classy rose gold heels. (Pro tip: block heels and platforms will give you the height and comfort you need to own the dance floor!)
If you’re not a fan of heels, a pair of dressy flats can still go a long way at a black tie optional wedding. Look for a pair with glittering embellishments or a fun texture to add some interest (and formality) to your outfit.
What types of accessories are appropriate for a black tie optional wedding dress code?
Your accessories are kind of like the frosting on top of the black tie optional wedding cake. They’ll complete your look, and give you an extra dose of stylish flair to stand out from the crowd!
And since this dress code calls for all things glitz and glam, this is your chance to have some fun, showcase your sartorial style, and wear those accessories you can’t get away with on the day to day.
For the guys: Since most black tie optional wedding attire for men is pretty dark and sophisticated, your accessories are where you can add some color and personality! Opt for a vibrant pocket square, a snazzy pair of cufflinks, or a sleek + bold men’s watch. And don’t forget the most important accessory: your signature scent!
For the ladies: If you’ve been looking for an excuse to rock some statement accessories, black tie optional weddings are here. for. you. Go full glam with an elegant pearl necklace, chandelier tassel earrings, or a trendy embellished headband. A sleek bag to hold all of your essentials is also an essential, so make the most out of it by choosing a sparkly purse or a patterned clutch! And of course, a mesmerizing scent.
Looking for the perfect accessory to go with an evening gown? Add a bit of sparkle (and personality) with one of these gorgeous birthstone necklaces! We’ve found the most dazzling styles for every month.
What should you not wear to a black tie optional wedding?
So, what does the “optional” in black tie optional really mean? While you have more freedom with this dress code, there are still clear rules for what not to wear to a black tie optional wedding.
This goes without saying, but anything casual is off-limits for black tie optional weddings. An optional dress code doesn’t mean you can skip out on a dressy look, so stay away from jeans, t-shirts, polos, sneakers, and flip flops.
This also isn’t the time for your favorite sundress or your go-to office attire. Think of it this way: anything you’d wear on the daily should likely be saved for a more casual celebration!
We also already mentioned some of the color faux pas up above, but they bear repeating. Unless the invitation says otherwise, it’s always best to avoid the color white (or anything similar, like ivory) for a wedding. When in doubt, don’t wear something that has the potential to distract from the love birds — it is their big day, after all!
GWS Dress Code Pro Tip: Not sure if something is off limits for your black tie optional wedding attire? Always double-check the invitation (and the wedding website, if the couple created one) for extra guidance. And feel free to reach out to the couple or someone in the wedding party if you have specific questions!
How to dress for a black tie optional wedding while on a budget
Here’s the good news: dressing to the nines for a black tie optional wedding doesn’t have to break the bank! Here are some expert tips to help you look your best on a budget.
- Balance your steals and splurges: Having a fabulous look doesn’t require head-to-toe designer pieces! Choose some aspects of your outfit to splurge on, and others to save on. Pairing a budget-friendly dress from an online retailer like Lulus with an investment designer handbag will give your entire look a high-end feel. Splurge on the stand-out items, like accessories, then keep the rest of your attire simple and understated!
- Rent vs. buy: As much as we love wearing glamorous attire, it’s not always a practical addition to our everyday wardrobes. Instead of emptying your wallet on a piece you’re only going to wear once, why not rent a fabulous look instead? You can rent a high-quality tux from The Black Tux or a designer gown from Rent the Runway for a fraction of the cost. And if you do fall in love with it, there’s always the option to buy afterward!
- Look for designer dupes: Been eyeing a $500 pair of designer heels, but can’t quite justify the cost? With a bit of searching, you can almost always find a dupe on sites like Lulus, ASOS, or even H&M. Those fabulous Loeffler Randall heels that are everywhere right now? We found an alternative for $34!
The Best Places to Buy Black Tie Optional Wedding Attire
Have a black tie optional wedding on your calendar and not sure where to start? We’ve got you covered! These are our top 3 favorite places to buy black tie optional wedding attire.
- BHLDN/Anthropologie: With an entire collection of black tie gowns, Anthropologie (and their wedding-specific site, BHLDN) are where its at for gorgeous and appropriate wedding attire that stands out. This is where you can find statement designer pieces, classic wardrobe staples, and the best accessories to tie it all together!
- Lulus: For stylish and wallet-friendly dresses that dazzle for black tie optional weddings, it doesn’t get better than Lulus! Most of their gowns are under $100, from ultra glam sequin styles to elegant black designs. And yes, this is where you can find all the best designer shoe dupes!
- Bloomingdale’s: With classy black tie optional wedding attire for both men and women, department stores are real winners! We especially love Bloomingdale’s range of chic, sophisticated, and stylish evening gowns, as well as their next-level collection of men’s attire. Plus, Bloomingdale’s (and other department stores) stock amazing high-end designers, like Mac Duggal and Hugo Boss!
Women’s Black Tie Optional Dresses
Below, we’ve rounded up a few of our favorite women’s black tie optional dresses to give you a better idea about how to dress to impress…and to help you find your perfect ‘fit!
Whether you’re shopping for a garden wedding in June or a destination wedding in December, we’ve found the black tie optional wedding attire that will make you absolutely shine on the big day. Ready to feel like your most glamorous self?
Scroll on to check out the best evening gowns in every style, budget, and gorgeous hue!
1: Chic + Glimmering Purple Women’s Black Tie Optional Dress
Shimmer and shine with this gorgeous black tie optional dress! Jewel tones are always a good idea for elegant weddings, and this luxe plum hued gown channels allll the gemstone vibes. We love how it’s simple, but definitely not boring!
And, as a super affordable pick from Lulus, you can easily spice this gown up with some show-stopping accessories!
All it’s missing are a glittering pair of rhinestone earrings (we found that exact pair!), some metallic silver pumps, and a glamorous modern clutch. Perfection!
The essential finishing touch to any outfit? A signature scent! Check out these best-smelling perfumes for women, as rated by our GWS audience!
2: Vibrant Printed Women’s Black Tie Optional Dress
Black tie optional wedding attire = your chance to bring the prints! This flowy gown is fun and festive with a vibrant burnout print and a flirty ruffle hem.
Perfect for a daytime or warm weather wedding, it shows off your personal style, while still feeling dressy enough for the occasion. Talk about the best of both worlds!
Since this printed dress is a bit more relaxed, elevate your look with a fabulous pair of rhinestone heels and a sophisticated necklace.
P.S. This dress is size inclusive, with sizes 00 petite to 26 plus!
3: Deep Green Women’s Black Tie Optional Dress
If you’re looking for women’s black tie optional dresses that you can actually wear again, then you can stop scrolling now. Because this midi slip dress is the ultimate wardrobe staple!!
With 12 different colors to choose from, this dress is a winner no matter the wedding or your personal style. Style this dark and dreamy green one with a luxe wrap for an elegant evening affair. Or pair the dreamy lilac shade with strappy heels for a warm weather celebration. The options are truly endless!
And with a price tag just under $100, we wouldn’t blame you for stocking up on a few.
4: Botanical Silky Halter Style Women’s Evening Dress
Does your upcoming black tie optional wedding take place in a romantic botanic garden? Then we’ve found THE best evening gown for the occasion!
This silky floor-sweeping dress will give the blooms a run for their money, with a lush floral print and an elegant + timeless silhouette.
It’s also sustainably made with 100% silk by the one and only Reformation. Saving the planet while looking amazing? Say less!
5: Women’s Black Tie Optional LBD
We couldn’t round up the best women’s black tie optional dresses without including at least one black option. Enter: this chic ankle length gown!
Like the black tie version of an LBD, this dress is extremely versatile and always a winner. Since black automatically feels dressy, you have some room to play with your silhouette — and we can’t get over how cute the ruffle bodice is on this stunner!
Give it a dose of glam with a sparkly clutch and dazzling heels, and show off some personality with a trendy black hair bow!
6: Romantic Rose-Printed Women’s Evening Dress
It doesn’t get more romantic than roses, and this women’s black tie optional dress is proof!
As far as evening gowns go, this mesh wrap dress has to be one of the most comfortable. It features a universally flattering wrap-style silhouette with an elastic waistband and sheer flutter sleeves.
And that velvet rose print is just TO DIE FOR! Feminine, dressy, and perfect for a fashion-forward affair.
7: Rich Velvet Ruby Hued Women’s Evening Dress
We would take any and every excuse to rock this stunning evening gown! We LOVE velvet dresses for chilly black tie optional weddings. There’s something about this fabric that feels so luxurious and glamorous — especially in this rich ruby hue and sleek fitted silhouette!
Go for a full Old Hollywood glam look by pairing this gown with a crystal choker necklace and glitzy heels. And if the temperatures are on the chillier side, faux fur wraps are a no brainer for this dress code!
8: Viva Magenta Women’s Black Tie Optional Dress
You can’t go wrong with Pantone’s color of the year! We’re planning to wear viva magenta any chance we get this year, and black tie optional weddings are no exception.
This gorgeous gown gives the shade a romantic makeover, with a floral organza overlay and an alluring criss-cross back. Swoon!
While it’s on the brighter side for this dress code, this floaty gown would look SO chic for a warm outdoor wedding. Just keep the rest of your accessories simple to avoid looking too flashy. Think: black or white heels and understated studs.
9: Elegant Cold Shoulder Cowl Neck Women’s Evening Dress
For something that feels more “black tie” than “optional,” it doesn’t get better than this stunning draped shoulder Reformation gown! It features an asymmetrical neckline and a cascading skirt that elongates your figure in the most flattering way possible.
Plus, that chic praline color is perfect for any season or venue. Prepare to earn ALL the “best dressed” awards with this black tie optional wedding attire!
10: Twinkling Midnight Blue Women’s Evening Gown
For black tie optional weddings that take place after dark, stay on-theme with this glittering midnight blue dress.
Channel the night sky as you dance under twinkling stars with the glittering fabric and dreamy skirt. It’s equal parts sexy and sophisticated — especially when paired with these sparkly fringe earrings!
With such a dazzling look, no one will believe this stunning evening gown is actually a super affordable Amazon find!
Black Tie Optional Attire for Men
While black tie optional wedding attire for men seems pretty straightforward, there are actually tons of different stylish options to choose from!
Whether you want to go classic and elegant or modern and fashion-forward, we’ve rounded up the best black tie optional wedding attire that will do the job — and fit the dress code. That’s right, we’ve done the shopping so you don’t have to. You can thank us later!
Keep scrolling for the best black tie optional wedding attire for men in every style, and get ready to win some major style points.
11: Three-Piece Dark Blue Black Tie Optional Wedding Attire for Men
For black tie optional wedding attire for men that’s ~just~ the right amount of dressy, you can’t go wrong with a three-piece set. This one combines modern tailored pants with a slim fit jacket and a signature vest. While it also comes in charcoal grey, we’re big fans of this sleek dark blue for an elegant event!
Complete with a crisp white button-down, a silk tie, and suave leather shoes, it’s a classic look that will always make a good impression.
12: Dark Gold Velvet Dinner Jacket for Men
Want to take your black tie optional wedding attire to the next level? Swap out your classic jacket for a luxe velvet one! This dinner jacket gives the classic tux look a rad upgrade with a sophisticated dark gold hue and a stylish shawl collar.
Paired with a black bow tie and suave velvet loafers, there’s no doubt you’ll be the most dapper man in the room. Perfect for a glamorous evening or cold weather wedding!
13: Luxury Charcoal Grey Black Tie Optional Wedding Attire for Men
If you’ve been looking for an excuse to invest in some luxury formalwear, now’s the perfect opportunity!
A dark grey suit is an essential wardrobe staple, and this two-piece one is the best of the best. It blends wool and cashmere to create top-quality wedding attire for men. Plus, all of Indochino’s suits can be fully customized (from the lapels to the lining) to deliver your dream style.
Dress it up for a black tie optional wedding with a designer watch and black oxfords. Then dress it down for work, date night, and all your other special events!
The ultimate finishing touch to any stylish ‘fit: a killer timepiece. Take your wedding attire to the next level with one of these sleek watches for men. We’ve found a winner in every style and budget!
14: Stylish Paisley Black Tie Optional Wedding Attire for Men
Proof that black tie optional wedding attire for men doesn’t have to break the bank! Look stylish on a budget with this sleek paisley ‘fit. We’re here for the old school print and velvet collar, mixed with the modern skinny style — such a killer blend of timeless and trendy.
And currently on sale for under $100, you really can’t go wrong! Just add a slim fit shirt and trendy dress shoes and you’re good to go.
15: Classic Italian Wool Black Tie Optional Wedding Attire for Men
When in doubt, stick to the classics! You’ll look absolutely timeless with this capstone black tie optional wedding attire for men, featuring a sophisticated shawl collar, fitted pants, and a sleek tie. And made with Italian wool, it’s the kind of formalwear that will last you a lifetime.
Available in both extended sizes and standard sizing, this wedding attire is a fool-proof choice for anyone and everyone!
16: Bold Blue Dinner Jacket for Men
Want to add a pop of color to your look? This navy blue dinner jacket is a sophisticated way to inject your black tie optional wedding attire with some personality, while still sticking to the elevated dress code. It’s bold, but not over-the-top — plus it wows for every season, venue, and aesthetic!
Pair this jacket with a fun pocket square and brogue leather shoes, and prepare for all eyes to be on you.
17: Modern Slim Fit Black Tie Optional Wedding Attire for Men
Enter: the traditional black tie optional wedding attire for men, but with a sleek and modern twist! Sure, you could pair this two-piece black set with a classic white shirt….or you could showcase your dapper style with a bold blue shirt instead. (Our vote’s for the latter!)
Dress up this modern slim fit look with a stylish tie and killer cuff links. All style points go to you!
Get Ready for Wedding Season With Our Best Guides
Now that you’re set to be the best-dressed attendee at your next black tie optional wedding, it’s time to focus on all those other essentials for the big day. And by essentials, we mean gifts!
If your favorite love birds just broke the news of their engagement, celebrate this major life milestone with a sweet and thoughtful engagement gift! We’ve rounded up the best gifts and ideas to spread the love.
If the big day is fast approaching, come prepared thanks to our list of unique wedding gifts that will wow any couple! These aren’t your average gift ideas, and that’s what we love about them.
And finally, if you’re a friend of the bride then you’re probably also prepping for the bridal shower. Make it a moment to remember with these rad bridal shower gifts that she’ll genuinely love!
Need any more advice before the “I do’s”? Drop your questions in the comments below!
